There are women who are so eager to be in a relationship or to have a relationship going on that they will do anything to be in one.
Because of this, every man that comes their way or they date is considered Mr. Right.
In most cases, this leads to compromise on their part. Be it they do not agree on the most fundamental things, have very little in common or there is no chemistry between them, they will still persist and will try to turn an incompatible relation into a relationship.
This basically portrays a sense of weakness and fear on their part; a fear that there is no man out there who is willing to pursue them. They usually see themselves as people unable to live fulfilled and happy lives. As such, they seek a man, just any man who will complete them at any cost.
Women pursue the wrong type of man for all the wrong reasons.
The ability with how to get a boyfriend and to make him interested in you will wholly depend on attitude. Your attitude will determine how people see you. As a woman, you possess the power to make almost any man want you, to make him see you as a special, unique person worthy of his attention and time. All you will need to understand is how a man views you for him to consider you a person who is real and cool.
To accomplish this, you will have to:
1. Avoid being too empathetic
A common mistake many women do is that they try so hard to love a man in a way that he wants to be loved. Yes, men want to be loved in a way that they feel loved. However, it is important to understand that men do not experience that feeling of love as women do. So if you are trying to love him in a way that you would want to be loved, he will only perceive it as radio static or white noise. What you need to do is to learn what men want in a woman for them to feel that she understands them. Not all men what the same thing. So you will need to find out what the mad you are dating wants and help to provide that.
2. Do not expect him to verbally express himself all the time
Another mistake women make is expecting the man to be verbally expressive especially when it comes to their feelings and matters of the relationship. Men are quite different to women and usually do not consider talking as the biggest task in building a relation. To them, it is mostly about the experience rather than the words that will matter most. For a greater part, men will talk to have something achieved or a goal reached.
As men are goal oriented, everything and anything a man will say or do is for the purpose of furthering him to achieve his goals. To a man, talking is just a means to passing time or an end in itself and is usually considered a waste of time. To men, life is seen in terms of losing and winning. They do not look at life in abstract. As such, they will not spend too much of their time just sitting there thinking about a relationship or relationships.
Men think in the lines of failure and success. Everything they say or do is to either get a step closer to success or for the purpose of avoiding failure.
3. Accept the fact that men do not express their love as women do
Forget what you see on TV or in the movies. In reality, it is only a very small percentage of men who are capable of coming up with beautiful poetic words at just the right moment to confess how strong their love for you is.
Often, women miss the telltale signs that prove a man’s love for them. Why? Because many of them do not know these signs. Once you have understood how a man experiences and expresses his love for you, only then will you be able to tell, without a doubt, the he really loves and cares for you.
4. Men want to be accepted and appreciated as men
Every so often, men are treated as a different class of woman who needs some schooling on how to express or feel as a woman should. And because men are not as emotionally expressive and incontinent, women think of it as a signal that they do not love them; becoming discontented and angry at them. This then makes the men feel like failures in their efforts to prove their love for them and eventually, they retreat and with time, give up. It is important that you learn and understand how to connect with your man as the man he is. This will call for you to know the secret behind who men are and how they work.
5. Stop rewarding irresponsible behavior
The interesting thing is that many women reward bad behavior without them realizing it. For example, many women will start working harder to please a man when they feel that he is losing interest or withdrawing in the effort to win/pull him back to her. As time passes by, he will stop trying to even please you because he knows that there is no need to make an effort towards you as you have made him the epicenter of your world.
6. Stop punishing right behavior
What does this mean? A good example is not accepting his compliments kindly.
Many ladies make the mistake of brushing them aside claiming they are either undeserved or untrue. The flip side of this is that men hate it, a lot. In most cases, a man will pay a woman a compliment out of the genuine desire to please and make her happy. But having it thrown back at them is extremely painful and perplexing to them.
Doing this is punishing a man for behaving well and how he is supposed to and makes things harder while lowering his chances of ever repeating the same again. If you want a man to start doing more for you, it is important that you understand him and pushes him to do what he does.
The best part of learning this is that your man will treat you how you desire to be treated and will give him the chance to feel like he’s the man for coming up with the idea.
7. Teach your man how to treat you how you want to be treated
Many ladies think that a man just does what he just knows to do. The truth is, men are awful at understanding women. One thing you have to accept is that men do not possess the ability to read minds. However, they are very good at following specific instructions and directions that will or may result in them becoming victorious.
The secret to transforming your man into the kind of man you want is by teaching/telling him what it is you want and how good it makes you feel when he gives it to you.
Any man will be more than willing to oblige. Why? Because above all things, all a man wants is to please and make you happy.
However, he will need help, your help, if he is to get things right.
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